1、翻了个译，MTI专业辅导My father is dead almost 31 years,and yet, in this apology,the one I had to write for him,I discovered the power of an apologyand how it actually might be the way to move forwardin the crisis we now facewith men and all the women they abuse. Apology is a sacred commitment.It requires com
2、plete honesty.It demands deep self-interrogation and time.It cannot be rushed.I discovered an apology has four steps,and, if you would, Id like to take you through them.The first is you have to say what, in detail, you did.Your accounting cannot be vague.Im sorry if I hurt youor Im sorry if I sexual
3、ly abused youdoesnt cut it.You have to say what actually happened.I came into the room in the middle of the night,and I pulled your underpants down.I belittled you because I was jealous of youand I wanted you to feel less.The liberation is in the details.An apology is a remembering.It connects the p
4、ast with the present.It says that what occurred actually did occur.The second step is you have to ask yourself why.Survivors are haunted by the why.Why? Why would my father want to sexually abuse his eldest daughter?Why would he take my head and smash it against a wall?In my fathers case,he was a child born long after the other children.He was an accident that became the miracle.He was adored and treated as the golden boy.But adoration, it turns out, is not love.Adoration is a projectionof someones need for you to be perfectonto you.翻了个译，MTI专业辅导
